I knew it was coming. There were little signs, a bit of cheekiness here and there, a bit of sly pushing and snatching, but now we have full blown arguments, crying and shouting most of the day. S and Z are pretty much polar opposites personality wise so I suppose it was only a matter of time before they clashed. She stands on his carefully put together puzzles, pushes over his Duplo towers and breaks his lego. All of that would be fine, just part of the deal, but what is slowing driving me crazy is this:
‘Mummmmmmmmy, Mummmmy, S says I don’t like weetabix, BUT I DO‘
followed by
‘Mummmmmmyyy, Z says I’m not going to nursery but I am’
It might not look much written down, but there were actual tears, screams, shouts and wails. Enough to make me want to grab baby H run away and hide in a corner till they stopped.
Theres constant competition, tale telling and general wingeing, and its kind of wearing us down.
I always knew an 18 month age gap would be tricky, but somehow we got through sleep deprived early days, the days of breastfeeding whilst reading an 18 month old the same story 10 times over and it didn’t seem so bad, but this new stage is pushing me over the edge. I sometimes feel like we can’t do anything easily, even the nicest activity turns into a battle over something, and then theres baby H in the background, buzzing around on her car or drawing on herself when I turn my back.
Having said all that, every now and then there are 10 minutes of calm, time when they play nicely. When one is a pirate and one a fairy and they work together to get the monsters. When they sing ‘Whats going to work, teamwork’ as they tidy up, or when just running around becomes the best thing in the world.
I give you tonights little gem taken just before bed. Excuse the mess. It does make it all worth it.
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Just discovered your blog on Netmums. Brilliant clip! We are not the only ones to have what we call ‘Crazy Time’ before bed then! I particularly like your little girl’s dance moves.
Yay! Crazy time is the best! x
I can see why you liked the word mithering now! It sums it up completely doesn’t it?! I love the video and the roly poly’s! It does all make it worth it. I will soon enough be embarking on looking after 2 boys so I can only imagine the mayhem! We will all look back on these years and wonder how we got through…but you do and you will cherish it all! 🙂 xx
I do cherish it really, I can’t seem to write much bad about it all. xx
Ha ha – that video had me laughing – adorable.
With a boy and a girl only 13 months apart I feel your pain but to be honest, as they get older the fighting seems to have almost disappeared.
There is light at the end of the tunnel, honest!
Thank you. I hope so! x
To be completely honest I don’t think the age gap is the reason, there is 5 and half years bwetween my 2 and they are like this all the time at the mo. B thinks because she is older she is always right. H knows when she is right but still argues when she isn’t!! And the constant “Muuuuuuuuuuuuuuuum…………………” is so annoying!! I feel your pain lol!!!
oh really…well, at least its not just me! xx
I am getting very familiar with videos of your hallway! And I know that cheeky little musical background as well – used to love that drum!!
I’m afraid any age gap results in the same effect – it is just phases, it will pass, and then come back again – I am told it goes on forever 😉
Ha ha 🙂 oh no! Not forever 🙂
Oh I feel your pain…I have ‘Mummy…F keeps saying Nanny but she’s not here!” Grrr They are cute together but you can tell S is the cheeky one and Z is the chilled out one and I have the same issues with N and F! Opposites attract and CLASH!
Hope this gets better soon for you. xx
Eeeekkk, I dread the day with H is involved too. xx
Cute video! I can already see into the future and see which of mine will be the more chilled one and which will be the cheeky one on most occasions. As soon as my little one starts to talk it’s going to be game on for bickering I reckon. Help! Will be watching your blog for tips and hints along the way 🙂
Hmmm…i hope I get more skilled then! 🙂
gosh – wish I could offer some words of advice! love it that you ended on a positive. Fab clip too xxx
Thanks Gemma, I just can’t seem to write a negative blog post! x
Hehe gosh you must have the patience of a saint- I find it hard enough dealing with one and she is only 11 months- still they are very cute and for all the tiredness and arguements it is worth every second. I love their matching PJ’s and when they do play together they look like they play together well! x
Unfortunately a lot of the time my patience is stretched to the limit….they are lovely though. I was thinking about this post all day and thought it would be a real grumpy one, but then they were like that at bedtime, and I couldn’t be cross with them. That seems to happen a lot. x
your kids are just nuts!! I love them and can’t wait to meet them……
oh and that bickering? It doesn’t get any better I’m afraid!
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Noooooo….don’t say that. xx
Boy your girl can move! So sweet. And I love the PJ’s.