Have you thought about divorce? Maybe you’ve had the idea come into your head, but you don’t know if you want it enough or you have enough reason to. Well, for one thing, there is such a thing as conducting a divorce in a civil manner. It won’t mean no one will get hurt but it can be possible. No fault divorces are becoming widely legal in the western world.
On the other hand, maybe you have more of a reason than you think. Take a look at our surprising reasons for why it’s time for a divorce.
Then again, maybe none of them will surprise you. That’s telling in itself.
You never argue
Couples are supposed to argue. If you argue, it means you care at some capacity. Don’t get confused though. You shouldn’t be only arguing, you shouldn’t be arguing for the sake of “winning”, and you shouldn’t be arguing to punish your spouse. But it’s very telling if you don’t argue about anything. Someone doesn’t care, or maybe neither of you do. No one arguing means that no one is fighting for the relationship. Similarly, if arguing feels like one person shouting at a brick wall, someone has checked out emotionally and isn’t willing to try.
You want to provoke your spouse
Then again, if you’re fighting to get a reaction, or doing things to start fights, you’re probably looking for some reaction from your spouse. People can test relationships in various ways, getting more extreme the more there is no reaction. This is usually a sign of wanting to end things, but not knowing how or being too scared to make that move. At the very least it can be used as a prompt to talk about why you’re unhappy, but pushing boundaries usually comes with hurting your spouse.
You feel stressed in their presence
You should never feel stressed by the mere presence of your spouse. If you’re finding yourself no longer enjoying the peace of being alone in anticipation of your spouse coming home or feeling a panicky heart race when they’re in the room, something is very off. This can start subtly and build. Take note of what your literal physically beating heart is saying when you think about them. It might not be as romantic as you think.
You hide who you really are
A fulfilling relationship comes from showing all of your authentic self. If you are hiding who you are for the sake of your spouse rejecting or trying to change you, that’s very hard to fix. You will either need professional help to fix it or to leave. Filtering your thoughts and feelings shows a lack of respect from your spouse for your opinions and who you are as a person.
You’re overcompensating on social media
Have you been scrolling through social media and gotten rather cynical about the date night photos that are going up? They look too happy, right? Right. If you’re that couple posting too many photos on social media, you’re probably overcompensating. Look again at those photos. Are they marred by a bad memory of the night? Or the time surrounding that lovely dinner? Were there arguments, scary moments, accusations, etc. but they behaved at the dinner? That’s common.
It’s never easy
The biggest sign from a relationship that isn’t working is simply that you’re exhausted. You might be sleeping, but every waking moment feels strenuous.
If you’re convinced by this list due to too many things sounding familiar, you can click this link to speak to some family lawyers and look into the process further.
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